Reason as the Leading Motive

A Synthesis of Life, Love, Values, and Relationships

Posted by Jerry on September 29, 2005

Since every virtuous act has to be deliberate and chosen before it can be considered a virtue, the act of choosing, the choice and the process of deliberation then becomes paramount in an understanding of the morality/virtuousness of one’s acts. NOT ALL CHOSEN ACTS are necessarily virtuous or moral.
The way we can differentiate certain chosen acts as moral and others as immoral or amoral is by judging it against the standard of human life as the most fundamental and basic value. Life is a value without the existence of which no other values are possible or attainable. Thus, all acts consistent with the protection, sustenance, and enhancement of human life and the condition of human living are moral acts.
However, as I said earlier, all moral acts should be DELIBERATE and CHOSEN acts, as there can be no morality if there can be no choice.

I hold that NOT every living human being actually CHOOSES to live. Yet, they keep on living. The property of life is a default to every living being. But the act of living is NOT a default for all human beings.
I draw my distinction between the two groups of living human beings based upon the act of choosing: the Rational Human and the Irrational Human.

The rational human chooses life with the clarity and salience of what it means to live. The rational human deliberates upon his/her choice of living and consistently makes the choice to keep on living. Therefore, the rational human pursues all possible avenues to make his/her choice of living, the best possible choice.
Now, since the act of choosing to live is made so deliberately by a rational human, the act of living itself becomes an act of great virtue and moral worth for this rational human. Now, since life (living) itself has become an act of virtue because it was deliberately chosen, and morality is only applicable to living beings, all acts committed by this rational human that remains in consistency with his/her fundamental moral choice to live is also fully and consistently MORAL.
Self-sustenance, production, and creation are actions MOST DIRECTLY and POSITIVELY impacting upon the choice to live. Since these actions come at the most direct and immediate hierarchy of deliberate acts after having chosen to live, they hold such significant moral worth that is second only the act of living.
Since living is a deliberate and salient CHOICE, the rational human is faced with the alternative of life or death EVERY SINGLE moment, and CONTINUES TO CHOOSE TO LIVE at every single moment. This act of choice being made at every living moment is what truly renders that choice and that life so significantly valuable and virtuous. His or her own life becomes the MOST PRECIOUS possession for this human being because he/she chooses to have life at every single moment keeping in mind clearly that they can CHOOSE TO DIE the very moment that they find this life NOT WORTH possessing.

In exact opposite, the irrational human is oblivious to such salience of the life-death alternative. The irrational human never fully or clearly considers the fact that life is a self-generating, self-sustaining act, and that he/she can choose to die just as easily as he/she can choose to continue living from one moment to the next.
The irrational human merely goes through the motions of living because life for this irrational being is merely a default of reality, NOT AN ACT CHOSEN CONSCIOUSLY at every single moment. Hence, this irrational being’s life is NOT MORAL and NOT virtuous, because it has no precedence of self-deliberated, chosen act of sustenance.
All their acts of escaping death is merely that: acts to avoid death – they are not acts to choose to live. The irrational human reacts to the external stimuli of their default state of living to guide their actions and show them how to live. Their actions are often arbitrary and contradictory because their state of existence is based on whim, chance, and fate, NOT on deliberate choice.
Thus, an irrational being pursues acts and values that ARE NOT ALWAYS consistent with their act of living because their own life does not have any significant value to them. Hence, their actions are not selfish – in fact, they consider any selfish, self-sustaining, self-generating, self-pursuing acts as IMMORAL because their MOST FUNDAMENTAL context of morality lies OUTSIDE of themselves, lies outside of their own lives. Their own life is not thing of virtue or morality. At best, for them life is a default and so it is amoral.
Hence, martyrdom, self-sacrifice, altruism, self-negation, self-deprivation, self-pity, etc. are in fact considered virtuous and moral, because the primary goal of their actions are NOT their own selves, NOT their own lives, but someone or something OUTSIDE of themselves. That is only consistent with their belief systems.

The rational human is a selfish and moral human. The rational human loves his/her own self and his/her own life to highest degree above everything/everyone else. The rational human hold immense pride and joy in living. The rational human knows that the moment life becomes NOT what life should be, he/she will CHOOSE TO DIE, because death is as real an alternative and as real a choice as living is. Life is a default, LIVING is not.

Just like my theory of relationships says that if every morning you do not wake up next to your lover and say with full, deliberate salience that “I wish to be your lover and love you today” – if you feel you cannot say that with honesty even one moment, then you should not be with that person. Love can be of value and loving can be of virtue ONLY when it is a choice CHOSEN at EVERY SINGLE MOMENT, NOT arbitrarily declared one day as a promise at the altar to hold till the end of a vague and uncertain eternity.

You can only truly experience love for someone else, if you have first experienced it for YOUR OWN SELF. So, every one who declares self-loathing, self-hatred, self-pity, self-sacrifice, self-negation, self-denial, self-deprivation, self-degradation as a virtue are ones who truly feel the same way about everyone else (and they also demand that from others).
Thus, morality, ethics, behavior, love, relationships, etc. are all intricately connected with each other and are based on a hierarchy of objective propositions with LIFE as its most fundamental standard of all values. If this hierarchy of Objective value is broken at any level, it will not lead to a rational living experience. This is the absolutism of Reason. One cannot hold a position contrary to any of this and still claim Reason as their guide.

One Response to “A Synthesis of Life, Love, Values, and Relationships”

  1. My Ex said

    i love my boyfriend and he loves me a lot, but i think he is still in love with his ex girlfriend?

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